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Marriage Satisfaction Self Test

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The Marriage Satisfaction Self Test

How satisfied do you feel in your marriage?

An honest inventory of your most important relationship — answer 32 quick yes-or-no statements and see your score immediately, right here in your browser.

Free·About 5 minutes·Answers never leave your device

Answer Yes or No for each of the 32 statements below (0/32 answered).

Part A

What's working

1. I am genuinely fond of my partner.
2. I can easily speak of the good times in our marriage.
3. I can easily remember romantic, special times in our marriage.
4. I am physically attracted to my spouse.
5. My partner has some specific qualities that make me proud.
6. I feel a genuine sense of "we" as opposed to "I" in this marriage.
7. We have the same general beliefs and values.
8. My spouse is my best friend.
9. I get lots of support in my marriage.
10. My home is a place to come to get support and reduce stress.
11. I can easily recall when we first met, the marriage proposal, and our wedding.
12. We divide up household chores in a fair way.
13. We have planned things out and have had a sense of control over our lives together.
14. I am proud of this marriage.
15. There are things I don't like about my partner, but I can live with them.
16. Marriage is a struggle, but it's been worth it.

Part B

What could use attention

1. I feel cynical about my marriage.
2. When I think of my own marriage, I can think of lots of sarcastic things to say about the institution of marriage.
3. I have a lot of criticisms of my partner.
4. Our lives are very separate.
5. Our beliefs and values are very different.
6. I don't think of this marriage as a "we".
7. I don't really have a sense of trust in my partner.
8. The stresses of my life just get added to at home.
9. I have only vague memories of our first meeting, the marriage proposal, and our wedding.
10. It seems like problems have beset this marriage throughout.
11. It seems like we have had very little control over our lives.
12. I feel disillusioned and disappointed in my marriage.
13. Marriage is not what I thought it would be.
14. My partner's faults are basically unacceptable to me.
15. Things are very unequal in this marriage.
16. When you come down to it, my marital struggles have been pretty meaningless.

Source: John Gottman, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. A reflection tool, not a diagnosis — there are no right or wrong answers, and nothing you answer is saved or sent anywhere.